Bangkok bar girls
Welcome to the ‘city of Angels’ – not quite the angels that King Rama I had in mind when he named it ‘Krung thep….’ but Bangkok is certainly one of the naughtiest cities in the world, with thousands of Bangkok bar girls who work in the city’s various ‘red light’ districts. Yes, it is an unquestionable fact that many men pencil in a stop to Bangkok on their calendars specifically so that they can have some fun and you needn’t look to far or empty your wallet too much to enjoy a steamy night out (or in). Bangkok bar girls are famous for their sex appeal, friendly and fun nature and easy approach. Unlike other red light districts in the world, Bangkok is very relaxed and it’s bar girls very welcoming. This is an introductory guide, but if you’re familiar with Bangkok bar girls then maybe you’ll be more interested in our pages on where to find go go bars and bangkok escorts.
Bangkok bar girls — who are they?
The overwhelming majority of Bangkok bar girls come from Isaan, the Northeast region of Thailand, they come from poor rural areas where job opportunities are low paying, they move to Bangkok and join the bar girls scene as a way of earning more money. With their dark complexion, sultry looks and sexy bodies they are almost certainly a hit with the foreign men and whole generations of girls from Isaan and other working class areas have been following a well worn path here for financial improvement.
The bar scene holds an added appeal for these women as most do not have an education beyond the sixth grade level. Some of these bar girls also have fatherless children and extended families to support – others might have a layabout boyfriend at home who they support financially.
Some do this out of a feeling that they are saving these girls from a hard life, regardless bar girls are often looking for a foreign boyfriend, so the two ends meet. Even as a visitor, don’t ever imagine that your girl thinks of you as special. She might be attracted to you and find you far more fun and generous and caring than the rest, but the moment you leave she’ll be back in the bar working, even if you send her money and she promises to spend her time at language school.
The opportunities for them are just too good to pass up, besides the bar scene is often the only place in Bangkok that they feel comfortable. Of course there exceptions to the rule and you may meet a sweet girl who has just started or really doesn’t want to be there, and was just waiting for someone, anyone, to come along and take her out of there. But these are few and as a newcomer you are unlikely to see through any deception.
While the vast majority of Bangkok bar girls fall under this category, the bar girl scene is so vast and densely populated that it includes women from all parts of the country as women of different educational and economic backgrounds. In fact as Bangkok becomes increasingly modernised, it is far from unheard of for female university students to work in the bar scene in order to have the funds required to purchase the latest in mobile phone technology and brand name clothes.
Lady drinks
Sit down at a bar and begin chatting up Bangkok bar girls and soon the request will come for you to buy a drink. This is the infamous Bangkok bar girl ‘lady drink’, and it is one way to pay the rent if you insist on just chatting without taking one of them home. Lady drinks are usually a set price (more expensive than your drink but not unreasonable – about 120 baht) and they are often watered down to prevent the girls getting too drunk. Remember, Thais have a lower alcohol tolerance, but if you want to get her ‘softened up’ then order her a beer. The girls are pretty forward and suggestive from the start and you may end up being immediately talked into buying a drink right away for a girl other than the one you might have your eye on. For sure, they wont allow you to sit more than 10 minutes without buying a drink. Buy one for yourself and not a girl then they will think you are ‘kii nieow’ (stingy) and leave you alone.
Bar fines
Now for the bar fines! When you’ve decided to take a girl out the bar with you, you will have to pay a ‘bar fine’. These vary from 200 to 500 baht and can be quite a rip off. It’s useful to know what the bar fine is before you start spending money on drinks. The more commercial and obvious the place the more the bar fine. Up market places tend to charge more. This fee is separate from anything you later agree with girl, though you can usually bash her down in price if the bar fine has been excessive (she gets some of it anyway). The ‘fine’ is added to your bill and you usually pay the girl. All of this is controlled by the ‘mamasan’ – who is vaguely equivalent to a pimp but serves a bigger function of taking care of the girls (often they all live together on the premises), acting like a bigger sister and wearing the big boots in the place. Mamasans are often ladyboys or retired bar girls.
The bar girl scene
The bangkok bar girl scene is nothing more than a huge financial osmosis which draws vast amounts of money out of the wallets of us flush farangs and into the needy pockets of thousands of sweet, deceptive players who can often be ruthless and without conscience. If you want to play, then keep this in the back of your mind the whole time.
It’s not surprising that the bar girl scene in Bangkok is popular among expats and tourists with its ready supply of beautiful women Thai girls. The scene is loose, unrestricted and at times a wild party atmosphere. Most bangkok bar girls speak enough English to get by. Of course, many ‘farang’ men living in Bangkok have a great time with this and some are even stupid enough to fall in love with a bar girl. Some do this out of a feeling that they are saving these girls from a hard life, regardless bar girls are often looking for a foreign boyfriend, so the two ends meet. Even as a visitor, don’t ever imagine that your girl thinks of you as special. She might be attracted to you and find you far more fun and generous and caring than the rest, but the moment you leave she’ll be back in the bar working, even if you send her money and she promises to spend her time at language school. The opportunities for them are just too good to pass up, besides the bar scene is often the only place in Bangkok that they feel comfortable. Of course there exceptions to the rule and you may meet a sweet girl who has just started or really doesn’t want to be there, and was just waiting for someone, anyone, to come along and take her out of there. But these are few and as a newcomer you are unlikely to see through any deception.
While there have been cases of foreigners wedding a bar girl and the relationship actually being a success over the long-term, this is generally not the case. Most relationships between foreigners and bar girls fail for a number of reasons, not the least of which is the massive gulf in terms of culture, economic status, and earning power.
Choosing to enter the bar girl scene for a Thai women represents a choice that clearly breaks from what is accepted in Thai society and as such, women in this scene, in some but not all cases, may not hold too high a standard in terms of honesty etc. Add to this the fact that the girls’ friends are likely all in the bar circle, and the odds thin out even further when it comes to dating success with a bar girl. Enjoy their company, have a laugh, pay them money, but in most cases it is inadvisable to start a relationship with Bangkok bar girls. As the popular saying goes; ‘you can take the girl out of the bar but you can never take the bar out of the girl’.
Although the publishers of 1stopbangkok.com have a policy of ‘telling it like it is’, regarding all of Thailand’s popular attractions, we do not condone or encourage sex tourism and certainly take a strong objection to sex with minors. The judgement is yours entirely, but prostitution remains illegal in Thailand and we urge you to treat the activity with caution and respect for those involved. Some girls willingly enter into the sex trade for economic reasons, but others who have not but may be short on money should not be encouraged to participate.
